Before Marriage.

One of the most important thing to do before getting married is to know yourself. It is only when you know who you are that you can know what you have and penultimately what you need as you'll know what you don't have. It's similar to stock taking in accounting. It is carried out to know what is needed as the exercise reveals what is left or available. The problem with most marriages today is not that stocks are not taken before the consummation. The issue is that they are taken on base things like sex, money, skin color, tribe, religion etc. While these things are not unimportant they remain secondary & ephemeral. Let us take an example: If you marry someone based on the fact the sex is great or the money is available, what happens if tomorrow age reduces the sexual ability or unprecedented events whisk all the money away? But if stock is taken on virtues, the gain is real and more permanent. When an overly patient but scarcely courageous Man marries an impatient lady but overly courageous lady, then there is a Kris-kross gain for both parties. This is why one plus one equals one in marriage. Together they are of full value but separated neither can function optimally. Consequently, Marriage ought to bring about an increment on every side as someone who initially had one hand and acquires an extra hand is supposed to do more than before. This is the basis for marriage and should be in place before consummation.

The Deliberate nature of Success

Success in Life is deliberate. It is not about going with the tides, waves or wind. Rather it is going against these. For it is a struggle! Do not be unhappy when you struggle for it is supposed to be so. In child birth both Mother & child struggle. Even Fathers struggle emotionally too. There is no easy way out. There are no shortcuts for they don't pay off in the long run! Christ struggled in Gethsemane. Jacob struggled with an Angel. Samson with the Philistines. Moses with Pharaoh for the freedom of the Children of God. Noah with an Ark and the negativity of his opposers then. Even Christianity itself is a struggle. Paul, Peter, James, John, struggled. Even our Country Nigeria was borne out of a struggle. Therefore we shouldn't be struggle-averse for it is a genetic code. What is a sense of accomplishment without struggle? The Man who works hard not to struggle has created a mirage for himself. For there would never be a time we would not struggle. The earlier you accept this the faster your redemption from a Life of struggle. Treat struggle like a bullet. Even though it can kill you. It can also protect you! It is a Neutral Power!

Relationships

A Relationship is like Business. You need to identify the purpose before entering/commencing the transaction. For without purpose in every of our endeavors how can we be his children? Or were we not made in his image? For if he has thoughts towards us, does he not have a plan? But every choice, thought or decision has it's merits as well as demerits and a conclusion as to the wisdom in each can only be made at the end of the race and not while the run is on within the tracks. However there is one who knows the end from the beginning. And it is a privilege to have access to him. Because you don't have to run the race to make the conclusion or see the end. It buys you time and is the shortest cut to living happily ever after. Find this access and do whatever it takes to possess this privilege for it ensures you have the right purpose before entering any relationship or business deal. It is a sure ticket to success. It is a person! It is a He! He is God!

Balance

A balance situation is not only as depicted in the picture. There is equally balance in an unbalanced situation. An Imbalance is created when the initial State of something is altered. But a new state of balance is created after this alteration. And even though the state is altered again to the former, both a balance and imbalance state is created. Therefore a State of equilibrium is not necessarily a balanced one but merely a state of equality. Balance equally exists in a state of Inequality.